Judgment

Hello, dear Youvies!

Being judged by others is something that all of us face every day, every time we step out of the house. But how do you deal with it? This is something that DeJa is all to familiar with and during our short time on earth we've developed some skills that help us navigate every day life without the judgements of other people weighing us down. Let's get started.

There is one specific instance I can remember that was a turning point for me as I have struggled with having a poor self image after years of being subject to ridicule and a barrage of harsh judgements. It was one lazy Saturday and I decided to go downtown to take pictures. As I was walking around looking at the sights I passed a group of girls that got quiet as I walked toward them and began to laugh as I passed them. Naturally, like anyone else I was worried (and almost mortified) that were judging me for something I was doing. But then I thought "If they are judging me, then what?" Then what? That was the question that really added some clarity. If these strangers were talking about me while I walked by what has changed? Nothing. And I was right. Whether they were talking about me or not, nothing in my life had changed. I had recognized and accepted that people are going to judge you regardless of who you are, what you wear, who you love, what music you like, where you live, etc., etc., etc., and was able to continue the day just as happy and carefree as it started.

Learning to accept yourself is hard work and certainly won't be something you can achieve in a night, but it can be done. A large part of learning how to cope with other peoples' judgements of you is realizing that nobody is perfect and accepting all of your "flaws" for what they are. 

There is no secret trick or 8 minute cure; the way to building confidence starts and ends with you and how you think of yourself. If you're having negative thoughts about yourself, make the choice to think positively. Manually change your thoughts about yourself until it become second nature. It's that simple.

We would like to challenge you all. Everyday for a week wake up, look in the mirror (Put on this week's strut song. Haaayy!) and say something positive about yourself. No matter how small, find the good things about you and focus on them for that moment. And let us know how that impacted your day.

Alright, enough of that, Youvies. Let's get back to the fashion!

Until next time,
Derrick
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